“Empathy is not simply a matter of trying to imagine what others are going through, but having the will to muster enough courage to do something about it. In a way, empathy is predicated upon hope.”
— Cornel West
Each person begins therapy for different reasons, and in those differences I seek to understand your unique qualities and experiences. Together we explore who you are and how certain behaviors, beliefs and responses have led you to therapy. We work towards developing insight, gaining awareness, and utilizing tools to create lasting psychological change. I believe that change is built from a foundation of compassionate noticing and deeper understanding. Importantly, much of that understanding must come from a place of exploring relational, biological, socio-cultural aspects. It is my goal to get to know you so that you can get to know yourself–to better understand your thoughts, feelings, needs, conscious and unconscious beliefs/narratives, and relationship dynamics.
“Love is a constant process of tuning in, connecting, missing and misreading cues, disconnecting, repairing, and finding deeper connection. It is a dance of meeting and parting and finding each other again. Minute to minute and day to day.”
— Dr. Sue Johnson
Seeking connection is an innate part of the human experience–we long for it–and when that feels threatened, conflict often ensues. Based on early relationship development, we each learn different strategies to feel connected and safe; however, sometimes those strategies can be misaligned or stop working. We often get lost in cycles of conflict– making assumptions, projecting, becoming defensive or self-protective, and subsequently participate in dysfunctional communication patterns. In couples therapy, we work to unpack these nuances and create greater awareness around your particular cycles of conflict. We seek to normalize needs and build communication and connection feels approachable and safe. I assist couples in developing a secure relationship that thrives on trust, resilience, and a knowingness that each person can be both dependent and independent and still feel “okay.”